Relocate…again?

A little bit of backstory:

In 2019 my wife and I moved from Nashville to Southern California. I got a job there for a company that has offices across the country…obviously working for the office in LA. The job turned into a full time WFH job even before the pandemic.

Since I could work from anywhere, we decided to move to Indianapolis last March because I’m from here originally and we can afford a lot more house for the money. We had a baby during the pandemic and thought it would be a good move.

Fast forward to now:

My mental health has taken a massive hit and I contribute it to WFH and not being around anyone all day every day. I’m pretty introverted so historically my friendships have evolved from meeting people at work. Even though I’m from Indy, it feels like I can’t connect with it here. I’ve slid into a deep depression (am doing therapy and all, tried meds briefly – not for me).

My company is hiring for a position back in Nashville. It would come with a small pay bump, promotion, and it’s mine if I want it as they’re desperate to fill the role. It would require me to move there as some of the work is on-site at customer offices, etc. As with any job posting though, it won’t be available forever.

At this point I’m welcoming the change. It would get me back around people again, hopping around a city that I love all day and being productive. I desperately need the variety.

My wife however, has been traumatized by 2 major moves in 3 years. She’s a realtor so wherever we move she’s basically starting over. However she would probably go back to where she used to hang her license in Nashville which she loved. But she’s still traumatized nonetheless even though she too doesn’t love it here in Indy.

There are a lot of challenges with housing right now. It’s a terrible time to buy, so we would likely need to rent out our Indy home and rent in Nashville which isn’t thrilling. We would almost definitely have to downsize.

It’s really hard to get my wife on board with it. I’m skeptical myself but a little more optimistic it’ll be a good move in the long run. She’s not so optimistic.

What do you guys think…does moving again sound like a good idea?



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